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Put On Your Big Girl Panties

August 14, 2012

Hello, Mary…Of course I have some time for you—you know my door is always open.  Make yourself comfortable.

What’s that?  Um hum. Um hum. Yes, okay.  Alright.  Anything else?

So let me make sure I understand correctly…

–you and Jane go to lunch together every day?

–last week, Jane asked the brand new employee, Kathy, to join you?  That was nice—always good to make newcomers feel welcome—I am grateful that you two did that.

–Let’s see….and now, Jane is still asking Kathy to join you for lunch?  And this upsets you.

–and also, Jane recently moved to another area…and you feel that this is because she doesn’t wish to sit by you anymore?

Wow, Mary.  This is a lot to digest.  Oh, please don’t cry…Here’s a tissue.

I think I can answer at least one of your concerns.  I am not sure if you heard, but Jane got a promotion last week, we are very proud to say.  Oh, you did know that?   Do you know which department she transferred to?

Exactly!—to that department.  Do you know where that department is located?  Correct again!  It IS on the other side of the building.  So I am sure you understand that when someone goes to work in a particular department, that they should actually relocate their workspace to that area.  It just makes good logistic sense. 

Oh?  You think she sought out and got a promotion just so that she doesn’t have to sit by you?

Mary, let me ask you this. Have the two of you had a fight or something?  Is there any reason that she would be mad at you and not want to sit by you?  No?  Then why do you think she wanted to move away from you so badly?

Oh, the lunches?  So, because the two of used to have lunch together, and now she invites the new friend also, you think this suggests that she doesn’t want to be your friend? 

But she does still want you to join them for lunch?  Mary, it sounds as if Jane thinks she could possibly juggle the responsibilities of having two friends at one time.  I know…It sounds far-fetched.

But, Mary, do you hear you?  You and Jane are grown women.  You are both free to eat lunch with whomever you wish.  If Jane wants to eat lunch with a new friend, I can’t help you with that. 

I suggest you consult with your grandchildren, because it has been way too long since I have had to deal with 6-year-old politics. I can only offer you some advice.

Put on your big girl panties, and play nice in the sandbox before you wind up in time out.

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